What do you see when you look in the mirror?
Do you see flaws, do you focus on weaknesses?
When Alice looked through the looking glass she saw a wondrous world, she dreamed of interesting friends and planned a brilliant adventure.
Instead of using the mirror to eye ourselves so closely, to look for problems in ourselves we should use it to look forward to the adventure that lies ahead, to focus on the dreams of the future.
We should let the mirror reflect the attributes that can take us forward, not those that can stall our path. See the eyes that can believe in the wonderful impossible. Look at the legs that can toss you down a rabbit hole, that can take a chance. See the person who can decide where you want to go next, and take you there!
Look past your reflection, look in the mirror with Alice's eyes, find the adventure and step on through.
Book recommendation: The Way I See You
In this book, written by Sandra Wilson in consultation with Katarina Simao young Karen doesn't like what she sees in the mirror.
She is suffering with anorexia when she goes to summer camp. She has her struggles, she has some problems, but she also makes friends and learns how to get herself back onto a good path. How to look in that mirror differently.
Learning from our reflection
mindful.org suggests "learning how to see yourself in your own reflection can increase self-compassion, aid stress-management, and improve relationships and emotional resilience."
Mirrors can definitely evoke strong emotions and bring out the self-critic in us. But with a more mindful approach to mirror-gazing we can learn to be more self-aware, we can better manage our emotions and we can build up the strength we need to conquer the fears and anxieties created by ourselves and the world around us.
Instead of using the mirror as a tool for destruction, we should start using it as a way to check-in with ourselves. To focus on how we are really feeling, which is reflected in our own face.
Mirror meditation can give us a chance to and a way to practice self-appreciation, to allow us to treat ourselves with kindness.
Watch the TEDx Talk: What Mirror Meditation Can Teach You
“We look into mirrors but we only see the effects of our times on us – not our effects on others.” – Pearl Bailey
Looking in the mirror is a way to practice self-love, but seeing yourself as others see you is also a way to deny your inner critic. Check out the blog post on Self Love to see how to get this conversation started.